Just love, no hate.

Friends and Music

http://youtu.be/Mkgq6u7YAA0

Let's call him "Old School"

Just to give you a brief history of Old School and I, we met when we were both 21 and working at a call center and I was the end of a year long relationship that just wasn't working out and I couldn't figure out how to end.  Old School is and always has been your typical cocky asshole with a quick smile and sarcastic sense of humor.  We had mutual friends outside of work and started hanging out.  There was always sexual tension between the 2 of us and he made it his mission to get to me.  I did not put up much of a fight.  I began seeing Old School about a month before I finally ended the year long relationship.  I'll admit, not my best moment but it was the only time (and has been the only time) I ever cheated on any boyfriend.  I justified it as "well, he's been sleeping with half the chicks we work with, so it's fine."  For the nine years to follow, Old School was always around when I needed him to be.  He was one I could be just myself around and someone who didn't care if I had my make-up done or was wearing the sexy outfit.  He always made me feel great and wild and free and like there wasn't a care in the world.  We embarked upon sexual adventures that either one of us would suggest and throw ourselves into whole-heartedly.  There was never any embarrassment or self-consciousness when I was with him.  It all ended the night my father was in the hospital, maybe 2 weeks before he died and no one knew what was wrong with him and I needed a friend.  I needed someone to just go and sit somewhere with a drink in hand and just be.  So, I called Old School.  It turned out that he was with his girlfriend at the time and she hated me simply because I was a girl.  He caught attitude with me and I flew off the handle.  The next day, he called to apologize and I sent him to hell in a hand basket.  We didn't speak until a bout 2 months ago when he found me on a dating site and sent me a message of "Can we be friends again?"  All I had to do was read this and realize that I had missed him in my life all this time.  I missed that feeling I had with him.  He said it best when he described why he needed me back in his life "It's like your a drug I can't get enough of and I don't want to run away from."

I miss you, Dad.

Just sitting here talking about Christmas memories with my co-workers and realizing that I have some kick ass memories of my dad at Christmas time.  Sitting up, fast asleep while we tore through presents and my mom ooohh-ed and aahhh-ed at everything we opened.  I miss him.

If a Man Wants You

This is all stuff you learn in hindsight and by the time you hit 35, you wish you would have known it sooner.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can’t "be friends."

A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has

more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

Oh Lord!  If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. 

Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists

of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re

always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.

You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate

them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Say it with sound...

Unknown and Anonymous are my favorite writers.

Crazy Fads

http://www.crazyfads.com/

Going through this list of fads made me nostalgic for my younger days.  Sort of.

As long as I remember this, I'm good to go.